How can I overcome the wall of resistance?

For progress to occur, stepping out of our comfort zones is the hardest thing to do.

The reluctance to step out of our comfort zones often makes us resistant to change as it allows us to feel safe. However, resisting changes could potentially prevent us from improving and growing into better individuals. Below are three core elements to push through your doubt, fears, and worries that keep you playing a smaller game.

1) What is resistance

2) When it shows up

3) How to move beyond it

1) What is resistance

The parameters to make decisions may differ depending on the amount of fear, worry, and doubts we have within us and how we choose to act upon it. In this case, our initial resistance to change knows where our comfort zone lies and the parameters surrounding it. Therefore, this resistance acts as a guardian to keep us within those boundaries and protect us from stepping out of our comfort zones.

Identifying such resistance or knowing the cause of worry and fear will help you rationalize and understand that it may be just a feeling of uncertainty or overthinking. Some common thoughts may include;

- Someone might disagree with me

- I am not capable enough to do this

- I am not sure if I will regret doing this

2) When it shows up

When the guardian; “your resistance to change” shows up, the mind will think of reasons to convince you that it is safer to remain in your current state; and encourages you to stay in your comfort zone.

The more you give in to this resistance, the more you are reluctant to step out to become the person you aspire to be. Once you concretize such beliefs, it projects your fear and allows you to think that: “this is impossible for me.”

So, do you wish to have such resistance hampering your life or risk stepping out of your comfort zone to take control of your own life?

3) How to move beyond it

We all have past experiences where we bypassed our doubts and fear to accomplish things we wish to do. So, what inspires this sudden drive?

It is usually an impactful event that spurs us forward to be brave enough to overcome that certain fear. However, do you wish to always be in such stressful situations?

To move beyond this, you have to acknowledge that resistance exists, just like how both opponents in Dojo, a form of martial arts, will look at each other in the eyes. Only by acknowledging one another, they can then know and predict each other’s next move.

Similarly, you have to acknowledge and overcome your resistance by assessing it rationally and telling yourself that your fears are invalid by having a solution to it.

You can then step out of your comfort zone with confidence. This will allow you to take advantage of your own potential and progress!

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